Hello, dear reader!

I'm Sue Deagle, your companion, supporter, and strategist for life’s ups and downs.

If you’ve ever found yourself:

  • facing an unexpected loss or transition,

  • grappling with a tangled web of emotions,

  • or just seeking some wisdom and humor for your daily grind, 

you’re in the right place.

Pull up a seat.

What is The Luminist all about?

The Luminist provides a guiding light for navigating loss, transition, and the struggles of daily life. 

We’ve been taught to fear these hardships, to avoid them like the plague, and to stick our heads in the sand if we’re unlucky enough to find ourselves going through one. But bad things happen to ALL of us. Instead of ignoring them, at The Luminist we face them head on, with both vulnerability and empowerment. Because just like any good moment in life has something bad about it, anything bad has something good. We’re not minimizing pain, suffering, nor heartbreak, we’re learning how to dance with the complexity of life, eyes and heart open.

But don't worry, it's not all heavy lifting. We sprinkle in humor, lots of stories where I forget to practice what I preach, and a touch of irreverence to keep things lively.

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Why did I start The Luminist?

I did not create The Luminist because everything in my life went right.

In 2016, without warning my healthy, unstoppable, singing-while-he-made-pancakes husband unexpectedly died at 50, leaving me and our two pre-teen kids shattered… But that turned out just to be the beginning of our story.

Over the next six years, with grief as my teacher I learned what really matters in life, how to be present with the little but amazing things, why human connection is worth any and all vulnerability, and so much more… In other words, loss taught me how to live a better life — a life that is bursting at the seams with love and depth and mystery. (All while holding down a c-suite position at an international corporation and getting my babies through high school. Turns out grief made me a better leader too.) 

The Luminist is my love letter to this way of living, and Mike’s final gift to us all.

The kids and Mike five months before he died of a heart attack.

What can you expect at The Luminist?

Loss Myths, Truths, and Tips

Instead of teaching us how to survive loss, cultural stories promise us that it will be terrible, will continue to be terrible, and will stay terrible forever. The End. While loss can be world-shattering, it doesn’t have to be world-ending. Let’s talk about how. 

Reclaiming Our Full Humanity

No human life has ever been spent solely happy, productive, and in love. So why do we feel like we have to hide the shared reality that life is messy? Here we speak freely about the pitfalls and pleasures of human existence without shame, judgment, toxic positivity, or endless pessimism.

Resilience, Empowerment, and Joy

We explore how to relate with loss and hardship in a way that turns them into fertile soil for a well-lived life. Because life is always both/and: creation and destruction, empowerment and surrender, gratitude and “get me the f* out of here.”

Practical Wisdom with Belly Laughs

Here, you'll find actionable insights with a healthy dose of “existence is absurd”. We’re not ignoring how hard life can be, but we’re not doom and gloom either. We’re licking our wounds, pouring a vodka gimlet, calling our best friend to laugh and cry, and (when we’re ready) moving forward. 

Join the Community

The Luminist is more than just a newsletter, it's a community. A space where we share, learn, and grow together. Whether you're here for healing, insight, or just to enjoy a good story, there's something for everyone.

So, grab a cup of coffee (or tea, or tequila—no judgment here, we “cope dirty” as necessary), and let’s get into it. Welcome to The Luminist, where we illuminate the pain, the pleasure, and the paradox on the path to technicolor living.

Sincerely,

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Founder of the Luminist, changing the conversation about loss and vibrant living.
Neuroscientist turned student of all things subconscious, energetic, and mysterious.