“Golden handcuffs” was one of my husband’s favorite phrases and he felt them keenly. His goal was to make as much money as he could before he was 60 so that he could then open a camping store, or some such. He died at 49, having just accepted but not started a new job that probably would have helped him realize that dream. Like you, we did all of the right things. It did not pay off.
Since his death I have pivoted so often that I feel like a whirling dervish. Some pivots were my examined choice, but mostly I’ve been rashly grasping the next thing that seemed like the solution. I’ve taken on too much and am tired.
Did you come to Duke or address the group remotely? If you were here, I’d have loved a cuppa. I’m just down the street!
Thanks again for sharing your experience and wisdom.
“Golden handcuffs” was one of my husband’s favorite phrases and he felt them keenly. His goal was to make as much money as he could before he was 60 so that he could then open a camping store, or some such. He died at 49, having just accepted but not started a new job that probably would have helped him realize that dream. Like you, we did all of the right things. It did not pay off.
Since his death I have pivoted so often that I feel like a whirling dervish. Some pivots were my examined choice, but mostly I’ve been rashly grasping the next thing that seemed like the solution. I’ve taken on too much and am tired.
Did you come to Duke or address the group remotely? If you were here, I’d have loved a cuppa. I’m just down the street!
Thanks again for sharing your experience and wisdom.
Sheryl
I’m finding that pivoting like a ballerina also requires substantial rest to prepare for and enjoy the leaping!
YouTube, Bruce Springsteen “ leap of faith”!!!!
This is such a great message. I'm wrestling with change right now and need to do a better job of embracing it.
I'd love to hear more about your Duke talk!