Oh my friend. This essay spoke to me in ways you cannot know. Ok maybe you do ;-) Thank you. I hold on to most everything too long. I have an attic and a crawl space that can attest to that. I beat myself up for not keeping in touch with friends, when no doubt our friendships have run their course. I’ve let my blog become old and stale and virtually dead because I thought I couldn’t let it evolve.
And you’re right that some things endure. I’ve recently added songs that remind me of Adam, my late husband, so my current playlist. I’m able to listen to some of them with little effect other than nostalgia. However “Kite” and “Everything I Own” sent big rollers down my cheeks as I drove to the beach yesterday.
Anyway, thanks as always for figuring out what I need to hear and writing it down. I mean, it’s all about me, right? 😂
I love this. I have many friends from my past I don't talk to anymore, but still think of them favorably. It's funny how people come into and out of our lives, as if their purpose is to sustain us for a short period of time.
Thanks for your reply, Sue. I initially made that playlist to evoke a good cry when needed. I suppose I did a good job since it still works! 😂 It’s good to know you have one, too. Happy Sunday.
About 20 years ago, a mentor told me that friends last for a “reason, a season, or a lifetime.” Ever since then, I accept the fact that friends will come and go throughout my life, but each one is a gift to me as I navigate my life journey. Thank you for the reminder that life is a dynamic experience full of changes, whether we’re ready for them or not.
I'm going through this with my BFF from film school. We've known each other for over 30 years, but it's gotten to the point where I want to ask him, "Do you even like me anymore?" I had to call him out on one insult he gave during a phone call (I've let many others slide, and we know I have a wicked sense of humor; this dug deeper than a ha-ha). He of course said I was clearly sensitive and didn't want to talk about it (yeah, that fits). I can't remember the last pleasant conversation we had. I don't see the point in actually ending the friendship -- he lives a couple hours away, so we don't see each other often, nor are we on the phone regularly anymore. But the tedium of it is uncomfortable. So, I'll just let it ride. Sometimes, the length of time we've known someone entangles us with them, making it harder to wriggle free. Not all friendships/relationships are meant to last. Reason, season, lifetime...boomerang (some do come back). I've learned to let go rather than chase. Maybe that's what I'm doing here with that length of time/rope keeping me tangled. Lovely post, Sue. xo
Entangles us….yes that’s the perfect word. Like an invisible web or something. But when the interactions are meh or blech, it’s just not worth it. For either person! Thanks for giving me better language here Sandra Ann. ❤️
Oh my friend. This essay spoke to me in ways you cannot know. Ok maybe you do ;-) Thank you. I hold on to most everything too long. I have an attic and a crawl space that can attest to that. I beat myself up for not keeping in touch with friends, when no doubt our friendships have run their course. I’ve let my blog become old and stale and virtually dead because I thought I couldn’t let it evolve.
And you’re right that some things endure. I’ve recently added songs that remind me of Adam, my late husband, so my current playlist. I’m able to listen to some of them with little effect other than nostalgia. However “Kite” and “Everything I Own” sent big rollers down my cheeks as I drove to the beach yesterday.
Anyway, thanks as always for figuring out what I need to hear and writing it down. I mean, it’s all about me, right? 😂
Happy Saturday. .
I love this. I have many friends from my past I don't talk to anymore, but still think of them favorably. It's funny how people come into and out of our lives, as if their purpose is to sustain us for a short period of time.
Thanks for your reply, Sue. I initially made that playlist to evoke a good cry when needed. I suppose I did a good job since it still works! 😂 It’s good to know you have one, too. Happy Sunday.
About 20 years ago, a mentor told me that friends last for a “reason, a season, or a lifetime.” Ever since then, I accept the fact that friends will come and go throughout my life, but each one is a gift to me as I navigate my life journey. Thank you for the reminder that life is a dynamic experience full of changes, whether we’re ready for them or not.
Wow, cool, I like the way you think!
I'm going through this with my BFF from film school. We've known each other for over 30 years, but it's gotten to the point where I want to ask him, "Do you even like me anymore?" I had to call him out on one insult he gave during a phone call (I've let many others slide, and we know I have a wicked sense of humor; this dug deeper than a ha-ha). He of course said I was clearly sensitive and didn't want to talk about it (yeah, that fits). I can't remember the last pleasant conversation we had. I don't see the point in actually ending the friendship -- he lives a couple hours away, so we don't see each other often, nor are we on the phone regularly anymore. But the tedium of it is uncomfortable. So, I'll just let it ride. Sometimes, the length of time we've known someone entangles us with them, making it harder to wriggle free. Not all friendships/relationships are meant to last. Reason, season, lifetime...boomerang (some do come back). I've learned to let go rather than chase. Maybe that's what I'm doing here with that length of time/rope keeping me tangled. Lovely post, Sue. xo
Entangles us….yes that’s the perfect word. Like an invisible web or something. But when the interactions are meh or blech, it’s just not worth it. For either person! Thanks for giving me better language here Sandra Ann. ❤️