They drop from the sky, these “anyone’s,” just when you’re happy with the status quo. That’s been my experience, anyway.
My first relationship (6 years after my husband’s death) ended very badly and I was almost as devastated as after my husband died. I realized that my goal was to find and redefine MY self before I could let another person in again. Almost the second I realized that goal, someone wonderful showed up in front of me on the dance floor. He will be over later with soup before we go listen to some jazz this evening.
So I’m both agreeing with you and observing that you sound really together right now, so it might not be long before someone quite interesting materializes in your life.
Wishing you the very best! Enjoy your fabulous life!
You'll have to excuse my phrasing...Yesterday, my dead friend's mother (86) tentatively asked me if I was seeing anyone (my friend and I had known each other since 7th grade and I spent time with her and her family, going up the week after chemo to help out). I explained that my last relationship ended shortly before the pandemic (and by "shortly", I mean a little over a year). By the time I was ready to start dating, we were in the midst of the pandemic (no, thanks) and now, well, I'm a NOVID who wants to stay that way and starting a new business, so that's not on my front burner. She said, "Well, you sound very content." And meant that sweetly and positively. A week before that, one of my besties said she didn't want to get into another relationship because her last one sucked and she doesn't want to have to change how she does things/her schedule for a mate. I reminded her that a good partner won't ask that of you. It's all right there when we are ready for it/want it. And not wanting it is just fine. Cheers, Sue. xo
First of all, love that phrasing. Always thinking about ways to describe Mike in stories….”When my husband was alive…..”., etc. Anyway, I love that she was open enough to observe that you DO sound very content - - so often people cannot see past their own feelings to see that we are indeed happy (and that you are the happyiest). I think even though good partners don’t ask us to change things, it’s still challenging to think of giving up unfettered freedom in exchange for love. Luckily the universe does not ask - - it just delivers. Like you say, it is all right there when you are ready for it. ❤️
Active thankfulness builds continuous contentment.
Looks like you're in a good place Sue!
Thanks Greg! Hope you and the team are doing well!
Nice. = “And my life is overflowing with connection, support, and intimacy, even if it comes in a package that is different than what’s expected.”
Enjoy!
What a poignant piece of writing! Thank you once again?❤️
They drop from the sky, these “anyone’s,” just when you’re happy with the status quo. That’s been my experience, anyway.
My first relationship (6 years after my husband’s death) ended very badly and I was almost as devastated as after my husband died. I realized that my goal was to find and redefine MY self before I could let another person in again. Almost the second I realized that goal, someone wonderful showed up in front of me on the dance floor. He will be over later with soup before we go listen to some jazz this evening.
So I’m both agreeing with you and observing that you sound really together right now, so it might not be long before someone quite interesting materializes in your life.
Wishing you the very best! Enjoy your fabulous life!
Love this insight Sheryl, thank you SO much for sharing! Over later with soup! You painted a great picture for us of the possibilities…..thanks!
You'll have to excuse my phrasing...Yesterday, my dead friend's mother (86) tentatively asked me if I was seeing anyone (my friend and I had known each other since 7th grade and I spent time with her and her family, going up the week after chemo to help out). I explained that my last relationship ended shortly before the pandemic (and by "shortly", I mean a little over a year). By the time I was ready to start dating, we were in the midst of the pandemic (no, thanks) and now, well, I'm a NOVID who wants to stay that way and starting a new business, so that's not on my front burner. She said, "Well, you sound very content." And meant that sweetly and positively. A week before that, one of my besties said she didn't want to get into another relationship because her last one sucked and she doesn't want to have to change how she does things/her schedule for a mate. I reminded her that a good partner won't ask that of you. It's all right there when we are ready for it/want it. And not wanting it is just fine. Cheers, Sue. xo
First of all, love that phrasing. Always thinking about ways to describe Mike in stories….”When my husband was alive…..”., etc. Anyway, I love that she was open enough to observe that you DO sound very content - - so often people cannot see past their own feelings to see that we are indeed happy (and that you are the happyiest). I think even though good partners don’t ask us to change things, it’s still challenging to think of giving up unfettered freedom in exchange for love. Luckily the universe does not ask - - it just delivers. Like you say, it is all right there when you are ready for it. ❤️
I like it! I love the fact you have rich, intimate, authentic, conversations with many different people. it is very possible!!
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