Sue, I love your openness and how genuine you are in your pictures and in everything you post. This post really resonated with me in a different way. My 31 year old son just left on a 10 day trip to Bali with a young lady friend. My heart is excited and happy for him but how I miss not being able to share these feelings with my husband who died 3+ yrs. ago. He helped make our son the wonderful young man he is today and now there is only me to be both mom and dad to him and to our daughter. I love that my son calls me on Father's Day to wish me a great day because as he says "I am not mom and dad to him." Loving and heartbreaking all at once. The feeling I got last week when I saw the 'Angel of Grief' sculpture on the Stanford campus. It touched every part of my heart and soul in this grief journey.
Carol, thanks so much for your comment. Wow - ‘loving and heartbreaking’. SO true. It is profoundly, deeply sad to not be able to share these kinds of things with our partners who are no longer here. I 100% feel you. And I am confident a lot of other readers do too. That’s one of the main reasons I write this newsletter - so we all know we are not alone. You have done an amazing job, to have such am empathetic son. And so did your husband! My heart is with you. ❤️
Carol, I totally got what you were saying despite the now vs. not because I am mom and dad too! I think lots of folks have asked Substack if they can put in a donation feature when a post really resonates....I’ve felt the same way about other substacks I read - wanting to let the author know when something really hit me hard (in a good way). I don’t think they are in gear to do that yet, but let me look into it a bit more. And I am just happy to have you here with us - and sharing posts with others when it makes sense to you - on a free basis. I’m absorbed and driven by the work and just want to continue to inspire and challenge re: changing our relationship with loss and thriving. Oh and laugh too! That’s a critical element. Thanks for your kind words and for being part of the conversation!
Congratulations to you and Kendall!
Thanks Chris!
Wishing you and Kendall all the best on your new adventures! It's going to be wondrous. xo
Thanks Sandra Ann! I am looking forward to the wondrous adventures to come! ❤️
Sue, I love your openness and how genuine you are in your pictures and in everything you post. This post really resonated with me in a different way. My 31 year old son just left on a 10 day trip to Bali with a young lady friend. My heart is excited and happy for him but how I miss not being able to share these feelings with my husband who died 3+ yrs. ago. He helped make our son the wonderful young man he is today and now there is only me to be both mom and dad to him and to our daughter. I love that my son calls me on Father's Day to wish me a great day because as he says "I am not mom and dad to him." Loving and heartbreaking all at once. The feeling I got last week when I saw the 'Angel of Grief' sculpture on the Stanford campus. It touched every part of my heart and soul in this grief journey.
Carol, thanks so much for your comment. Wow - ‘loving and heartbreaking’. SO true. It is profoundly, deeply sad to not be able to share these kinds of things with our partners who are no longer here. I 100% feel you. And I am confident a lot of other readers do too. That’s one of the main reasons I write this newsletter - so we all know we are not alone. You have done an amazing job, to have such am empathetic son. And so did your husband! My heart is with you. ❤️
Sue, thank you for your message about my comment. I re-read my comment
and it should have said: "I love that my son calls me on Father's Day to wish
me a great day because as he says "I am NOW mom and dad to him". (instead
of the word "not").
Also, I have a question: Rather than fully subscribe per month or year,
could there be another option to "donate" occasionally? Just a thought.
I'd prefer to have a couple options. Your wkly Luminist Messages are
introspective and thought provoking as well as inspirational and motivational.
Keep up the good work!
Carol, I totally got what you were saying despite the now vs. not because I am mom and dad too! I think lots of folks have asked Substack if they can put in a donation feature when a post really resonates....I’ve felt the same way about other substacks I read - wanting to let the author know when something really hit me hard (in a good way). I don’t think they are in gear to do that yet, but let me look into it a bit more. And I am just happy to have you here with us - and sharing posts with others when it makes sense to you - on a free basis. I’m absorbed and driven by the work and just want to continue to inspire and challenge re: changing our relationship with loss and thriving. Oh and laugh too! That’s a critical element. Thanks for your kind words and for being part of the conversation!